I remember my ex fiance telling me that I wasn’t giving him time to miss me and warning me that my attempts to be close to him would “run him off”.
I remember being called clingy for hugging him. I remember being convinced that my requirement that he come home after arguments was ridiculous.
I, like a lot of women, believed that I was “too”.
Too emotional. Too affectionate. Too talkative. Too damaged. Too worrisome. Too concerned – just to name a few. And I, like a lot of women, put all my eggs in one basket. I committed to this man’s potential in hopes that I could mold his view of me by reducing my excessiveness.
I died a little bit everyday with the end goal of being reborn as a woman who wasn’t “too”, and instead the one who was “enough” for him. So that our house of cards wouldn’t fall down.
Ladies: you are only “too” for the wrong man.
So the second you begin to feel inferior for being too much to fit into his standards or criteria, start reevaluating. Because while you’re curling your toes, clinching your feet, damaging yourself to fit into shoes two sizes too small…the perfect pair is on display in a store down the street.
Don’t be afraid to return your previous pair, and to go there instead.